Author: coachdebruyns

There are days when everything seems to be going wrong. Sometimes it feels like life is spinning out of control and you don’t know whether you’re coming or going. Chaos isn’t something you can predict, except maybe that it’s bound to visit you now and again. Even the most organized of people get thrown wild […]

Relationships

Why don’t men like counselling?

I’ve had countless women come to me for help asking me to please talk to their husbands about the duties their husbands ought to perform. I, in most cases, never conceded to that. I never have a discussion with a man about his wife, unless he comes to me himself and asks me for advice. […]

A strong body

I’m 35 years old and I’d like to do a Martial Art for self-defense. Which one should I do?

Martial Arts are of various types and don’t all have the same focus points. All Martial Arts are not equal when it comes to self defence. There are literally hundreds of different styles and with Mixed Martial Arts on the scene we’ve more or less experienced which Martial Arts are best for unarmed combat. However, […]

A strong body

How do I put on some muscle mass?

This is a great question and while I am not a professional athlete I have myself went up from 66kg to 75kg through diet and weight training over the span of a year. I’ve lost belly fat and gained muscle and if I could do that at 36 years of age while having a fulltime […]

Relationships

I don’t know what she wants…

what she says she wants, it more often than not, doesn’t get a positive reaction out of her. What do women typically want in a man?

Relationships

I don’t know what he wants…

There was a time people made certain basic assumptions about men and what they want in an intimate relationship. In fact, many people still have these basic assumptions: sex, food, comfort, and to be left alone. That’s a very short list and for a lot of men, keeping things as uncomplicated as possible is very […]

A strong spirit

Pleasure Seeking

When I was growing up I veered towards asceticism and had this idea that seeking pleasure was spiritually damning. I got that idea, not only from Islamic asceticism but also from my reading of the Far-Eastern Traditions. My journey into Martial Arts led me down the rabbit role of spiritualism and for many years I […]

Relationships

Understanding Cultural Nuance

In a diverse world where you might be in conversation with people from all around the globe, it’s hard not to misunderstand what the other person means. That is because, historically, we typically only spoke to people around us. We shared a common language and common experience. In today’s world we need to have a […]

Relationships

Relationship Advice for Guys

A lot of the posts out there are focused on how you can get a woman. There’s so much focus on game, which is basically just a bunch of cheap tactics to bed women, and almost zero focus on what to do when you actually have a partner / wife that you’d like to remain […]

A strong mind

Time Management

The world we live in is not like the world our parents lived in. We have the internet, social media, YouTube and so many other things we can spend a lot of our time on. Some people report spending in excess of six hours a day on their phones. Those aren’t six hours of being […]