Author: coachdebruyns
Society
Back to Survival Mode
The End of Times Almost every religion has an End of Times narrative. Christianity and Islam have the anti-Christ narrative, the return of Jesus to Earth, and the restoration of justice after evil has become widespread. Scriptures describe a final day when the trumpet will be sounded, and people will come out of their graves […]
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Relationships
HOW WOMEN BURN THEIR BRIDGES WITH MEN
How to Get and Keep a Man It was 3 am in the morning. Stumbling home from the club through the back door, Salma tried to sneak into her house. Her Mum sat quietly in the dark kitchen. As soon as the light went on, Salma almost fell over from the shock of seeing her […]
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Stories
Strength Through Discipline
Michael woke up at 11 am because a knock at the door startled him. He got up and went to the door half-asleep. It was a slip of paper. On top of it, it was written, “Eviction Notice.” Looking at it, he walked to the fridge, grabbed a beer, and sat down on a plastic […]
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Relationships
Are Masculine Traits Really Toxic?
The phrase “toxic masculinity” has become increasingly common in contemporary discussions about men, relationships and society. It is often used to describe behaviours such as aggression, dominance, emotional restraint, competitiveness, risk-taking and the desire for authority. Some of these behaviours can certainly become destructive. Violence, abuse, coercion and uncontrolled aggression are harmful regardless of whether […]
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Relationships
Toxic Masculinity Is a Slogan, Not a Diagnosis
They keep asking whether masculine traits are toxic. The question is already loaded. It assumes that the problem is masculinity, not the collapse of it. A generation of boys has grown up hearing that their instincts are a public health crisis. Strength is “domination.” Ambition is “insecurity.” Leadership in the home is “control.” Provision is […]
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A strong body
My Husband Isn’t Attractive to Me
I was lifting weights in the gym. The entire time, a woman watched me go through the motions of my routine. After about 45 minutes, I went to the bag, put my one leg over the rail and wrapped my hand in a hand wrap. I then put my other leg over the rail, giving […]
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Relationships
Stories
The Satanic Origins of Feminism
Thandiwe is a single mother with five kids from five different baby daddies. She’s 35 years old and currently pregnant with her sixth child from her 12th boyfriend. Deep down, she’s hoping that this one will stick around, but she’s not all that invested in him anyway. They always run away. Staring out the cracked […]
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Islam
Relationships
The Marriage Contract
Allah advises that the believers marry. It is not ideal within a believing society for there to be many single men and women. Rather, it is better that people who are able to marry get married and to even forsake material demands in the interest of society and the chastity of the believers (24:32) Marry […]
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Islam
Forced Marriages and Consent
The first legal and ethical principle we must adhere to undermines our culture of forcing people to marry. We force people to marry when we do not allow them to object, and/or we threaten to disown our own children when they disobey us. We do this using religion no less. The Qur’an states (17:23): And […]
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Islam
Marriage and the Quran Part 3
The Qur’an often discusses marriage and concubinage together. In many translations, the word nisa is wrongly translated as wives when, in fact, it just means women. There are also places where the Qur’an does use the word that could be translated as wives (azwaj) when exclusively referring to wives and not concubines. However, when the […]
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