Brotherhood
There was a time that men understood the importance of supporting other men in the pursuit of order, family and safety. A nuclear family could not survive on its own in the wide expanses of the earth where raids were not far and few between. Fast forward and we had large empires as a result […]
All I See is You
I recently watched the movie, “All I See is You” where this blind woman is the wife of an insurance broker residing in Thailand. I thought this movie would make excellent Red Pill content because it lines up with all the teachings of the Red Pill Movement that has found currency over the past few […]
Decent men do not treate women who aren’t their sisters as sisters.
There’s a phenomenon that I’ve observed, especially amongst Arabs, who when they want to cross the threshold of what is normally appropriate in Arab and Islamic culture, they say, “He is like a brother to me” or “she is like a sister to me.” A friend of mine married an Arab girl who literally used […]
Why a spoken for woman shouldn’t have male friends
I have had this debate over and over again where women have told me that they are perfectly fine with having male friends and their husbands don’t mind. Uhum, Will Smith didn’t mind and looked what happened to him? The fact is that male intimacy doesn’t work the same way as female intimacy, which is […]
What should your relationship with wealth be like as a Muslim?
Can Muslims pursue wealth just for fun?
Why the Tate’s are innocent
I’ve been watching content of Andrew Tate for about a year now. I came across him just before he became mega famous as being just another guy in the Manosphere. Although he might not have classified himself as that. Truth be told, a lot of what he was saying is part of a pretty standard […]
IT IS WHAT IT IS
COACH DE BRUYN’S PHILOSOPHY IN A NUTSHELL BOOKS PUBLISHED BY AUTHOR Live Your Life as a Man: Reclaim Your Masculinity This book is meant to help men live their lives authentically. There is a crisis of masculinity in the world and very few people out there have a balanced solution to the problem. This book […]
My First Fiction
Chapter 1 Who am I Am I a loser? Hi I’m Jack Higgins. I’m going to tell you my story of how I met the girl of my dreams and… FROZE. Well, yeah, at first I froze, then I sulked. After sulking, I gained some extra weight. But before we get into all that, let […]
Training in Ramadan
هل تريدين التدريب البدني في رمضان؟ انضموا إليّ وأنا أعطي لكم كيف أتدرب في رمضان The first thing you must remember is that Ramadan is the month where we dedicate more of our time to worshipping Allah and less of our time on things we would normally do. Therefore, even if you want to keep […]
LOVE ME FOR WHO I AM
Have you ever heard the song, “Love me for Me” by Jamali? I grew up with songs of female artists singing about how men should just accept them for who they are. Now, obviously, in general people should all be accepted for who they are because there is realistically nothing else you could possibly do. […]
Polygyny Maybe?
When men and women start out in polygyny they often struggle. Women struggle with feeling jealous and have trouble reigning it in. Men struggle with having to divide their time between two or more families.
The Principles
As a rule, always put the shoe on the other foot when you want to do something you are not sure is right. Would you like that other men flirt with your wife? So why would it be ok for you to do that?
From the book, “Live your Life as a Man”
Be strong, be brave, be useful, be you. You are a man and as a man you must hold to what your expectations are. Incidentally, men do not have nearly as many expectations as women do. That’s why your expectations are what matters, not hers.
Why the mating dance goes wrong
Over millions of years of evolution and for the first time in modern history we’ve experienced an unprecedented change in the variables we need to negotiate in order to have a viable relationship. Couples can now negotiate whether or not they’re going to have children. Who is going to be the primary breadwinner and primary […]
Boundaries in Relationships
I remember the days when I would see a really beautiful woman, let’s a say a 10 out of 10, go up to her and try to start a conversation with her. I would say, “Hi, how are you?” She’d reply, “fine.” I’d say, what’s your name, she’d say, “Anna.” I’d be like, “what are […]
Be contented not complacent
A person once told me, “Ambition is what kills you. You are never contented with what you have…” I thought about that for a while. It was true that I was always trying to improve my life, and I was never ‘satisfied’ with what I have. It was never good enough. I always wanted the […]
What’s my calling?
There’s this idea that everyone has a calling. When you do what you’re really supposed to do, somehow you’ll feel fulfilled in life. In fact, everything will just fall into place for you. I’ve heard that story over and over, and truthfully, I don’t buy it. I don’t buy it because as much as it […]
The Spirit of Discomfort
Have you ever told yourself that things would be so much better if only you didn’t have to catch the bus at 6am in the morning? Wouldn’t life be so much better if only you weren’t single? If only you had more money, you would be able to do so much more. If…. Only…. If […]
The Satanic Origins of Feminism
Thandiwe is a single mother with five kids from five different baby daddies. She’s 35 years old and currently pregnant with her sixth child from her 12th boyfriend. Deep down, she’s hoping that this one will stick around, but she’s not all that invested in him anyway. They always run away. Staring out the cracked […]
The Marriage Contract
Allah advises that the believers marry. It is not ideal within a believing society for there to be many single men and women. Rather, it is better that people who are able to marry get married and to even forsake material demands in the interest of society and the chastity of the believers (24:32) Marry […]
Forced Marriages and Consent
The first legal and ethical principle we must adhere to undermines our culture of forcing people to marry. We force people to marry when we do not allow them to object, and/or we threaten to disown our own children when they disobey us. We do this using religion no less. The Qur’an states (17:23): And […]
Marriage and the Quran Part 3
The Qur’an often discusses marriage and concubinage together. In many translations, the word nisa is wrongly translated as wives when, in fact, it just means women. There are also places where the Qur’an does use the word that could be translated as wives (azwaj) when exclusively referring to wives and not concubines. However, when the […]
Marriage and the Quran Part 2
A Cultural Shift We’ve noted that, practically, the loudest people on the block live in a cultural paradigm that bears little resemblance to much of our recent past. The technological era has created abundance for those few people who form the majority of popular discourse, and for whom there exist real existential problems. To begin […]
Marriage and the Quran
Introduction There are hundreds, if not thousands, of books written on the subject of marriage. Most of these books are prescriptive books that tell men and women how to go about getting married and how to behave appropriately within marriage. These books are typically also romantic and far from the actual experiences people have in […]
Helping Others
In the Name of Allah the Compassionate the Merciful To give charity publicly is good, but to give to the poor privately is better for you, and will absolve you of your sins. And Allah is All-Aware of what you do. (2:271) When I was a kid, I was raised to believe that helping others […]
The Female Breadwinner
If a woman wants a man who is the breadwinner, she should marry a man who can afford that. She should also not work, but instead stay at home because that entitles her to have a breadwinner. However, that too doesn’t mean that she doesn’t earn her keep. She absolutely earns her keep as she […]
Marriage Is A Serious Affair
Marriage is a serious affair. Pun intended. You can’t just marry a woman because you feel you need a wife. You need to vet her fully and properly, both for her sake and your sake, so that hopefully your marriage doesn’t end in divorce. I’ve had women ask me to marry them, and I turned […]
Hypergamy is Real
When men complain about lack of support it’s because men don’t support each other. A lot of men are constantly talking to women and helping women. When it comes to supporting other men, they’re not willing to do so. Women, on average, won’t support men either because why should they? He’s a man. Why can’t […]