Author: coachdebruyns

Relationships

Gender roles between the old and the new

In traditional societies and even in modern societies men are expected, as part of their manhood, to be providers. I have, and still advocate that men be providers but I have made it conditional to the type of women they are married to, if at all. Simply put, we must view traditional gender roles in […]

Society

The purpose of law and the Rule of Law

It is often said that when there is no law in a society that they follow the law of the jungle. In the jungle the fittest survive, might is right, and animals rule others through sheer dominance. That is an oversimplification, because ethologists have noted that there are significant cultural climates or customs that regulate […]

Books

The Principles

As a rule, always put the shoe on the other foot when you want to do something you are not sure is right. Would you like that other men flirt with your wife? So why would it be ok for you to do that?

Relationships

The Stupidity of MGTOW

Real men are responsible. Real men know that actions have consequences. Real men don’t sleep around.

Stories

The decision

I ran toward himAnd he turned away.I tried to hold on to himI could never get him to stay. I got tired, bone weary.Just went through the motions. Ignored the grief etched on his face So severely. Waited for my chance to escape. One day I was free.Left without a backward glance. What had he […]

Stories

Writing Letters

By Laylah De Bruyns As the sun started to set on the horizon and twilight tinged the lingering hues of the day, the muadhin began his call to the Maghrib prayer. The people gathered in the courtyard at simple trestle tables murmured a prayer before breaking their fast. A mass supper was a frequent occurrence […]

A strong mind

Books

From the book, “Live your Life as a Man”

Be strong, be brave, be useful, be you. You are a man and as a man you must hold to what your expectations are. Incidentally, men do not have nearly as many expectations as women do. That’s why your expectations are what matters, not hers.

Books

Relationships

From the book, ‘Get and Keep a Man.’

Prologue 5 Introduction 6 A chaste wife 9 A feminine wife 16 A pleasant wife 20 A responsible wife 23 A sexy wife 26 A supportive wife 29 A grateful wife 34 Conclusion 39 About the Author 40 Introduction I’m done having fun. I want something serious. Why would a man write a book about […]

A strong spirit

From the book ‘Live your Life as a Man’

You must arrive at that truth authentically and within your being. If you are a praying man, then you should seek God’s help in finding your way through life.

Relationships

Why the mating dance goes wrong

Over millions of years of evolution and for the first time in modern history we’ve experienced an unprecedented change in the variables we need to negotiate in order to have a viable relationship. Couples can now negotiate whether or not they’re going to have children. Who is going to be the primary breadwinner and primary […]