REASON #5
POLYGYNY PREVENTS SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES
In the introduction to this article I alluded to the severe reduction in sexual communism as a result of the institutionalization of polygyny. In societies where polygyny is practiced people have fewer sexual partners not more of them. More importantly, the loop for any particular sexual ecosystem (a man and his wives) is closed. If a man marries a woman, and they both don’t sleep with other people, it’s a closed monogamous system. There is very little chance that either the man or the woman would get an STD. If the goal was to reduce the likelihood of STD’s than monogamy would be the ideal. However, as I already pointed out, monogamy doesn’t preclude that people will or do only have one sexual partner. It only means that they have one partner at a time. In societies that profess to be monogamous, they more often than not engage is serial monogamy and or promiscuity. There are really only a handful of people who are on average actually monogamous. I already showed that in the United States less than 18% of people have had sex with only one person. The majority of people then would be at risk of getting an STD and they do not practice polygyny. Hence, we need a more reasonable solution than abstinence and monogamy. Polygyny is that solution.
If we are looking at probability, then the more sexual partners one has, the greater likelihood of getting an STD. Hence, it would almost seem counter-intuitive to suggest that having more sexual partners (polygyny) reduces the likelihood. Shouldn’t polygyny increase the likelihood of getting an STD? Here is where you need to think about the functioning of society and not just the individual. Yes, for the individual man, if he were to only sleep with one woman his entire life, he wouldn’t get an STD granted that she also only slept with him her entire life. That in practice accounts for less than 20% of society who succeed at that. The rest of society practically share a mega sexual ecosystem with each other, by chance surviving exposure to various diseases. The way polygyny solves this is that it acts like a barrier.
We acknowledge that more than 80% of society will not have sex with only one person. Instead of saying that everyone is evil and bad, we attempt to regulate the way in which that multiple partner sexual ecosystem is setup. The first step is to make sure that no one has an STD in the marriage system. We accomplished this in history through encouraging and enforcing chastity before marriage. We then make sure that every additional wife added to the the same marriage doesn’t have an STD. Hence if no one has an STD and they remain within the marriage system, then no one will get an STD. It’s a closed loop. Let’s say that God forbid, some people don’t exactly play by the rules- which is entirely probable. What would the result be?
Presumable if most people play by rules but a few don’t, those who don’t will infect the people within their ecosystem. However, won’t spread much further than that since most of the people in that ecosystem are playing by the rules. In other words, if we had polygyny without promiscuity, there wouldn’t be an HIV epidemic, or as in the past, a syphilis pandemic. The handful of people who caught it first, would also be amongst the people who stop it because they would be limited to their normal sexual partners even after their misadventures. There isn’t a lot of scope for misadventures in a heterosexual polygynous society since almost every single woman would be married. There would be a few men who won’t or can’t get married but that is not necessarily a bad thing. At least, it isn’t as bad as it is now. In our world today that vast majority of people of marriage age aren’t married. The belief that polygyny will result in more men not getting married is a fallacy. As it stands in the United States close to 30% of 40 year old men have never been married. This is not because the United States has institutionalized polygyny or that there aren’t women available. It’s simply because women are not prepared to marry men they consider “lesser than” themselves. That means there are always going to be men who are single and women who are in polygyny (even if called by different names).
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The argument I present here is for regulated polygyny, also known as marriage, instead of having unregulated polygyny- promiscuity. Polygyny as a public and accepted practice of marriage introduces the possibility of accountability. It also makes it possible to outlaw fornication and adultery. Without polygyny, outlawing fornication results in sexual repression because the market related price for marriage is often pitched outside of the average man’s ability. Hence, enforced monogamy and outlawing fornication becomes a double-edged sword. It prevents people from entering relationships freely and openly thus confining them to sexual flings (since they know there will not be longevity anyway but they have needs to be met). It also keeps the vast majority of people single because women have in effect been priced out of the market. The minute you put polygyny on the table the system starts to work again. You can now expect marriage because there are simply no excuses not to get married. You can also- within reason- expect people not to sleep around and not to spread STDs. In a society that embraces polygyny, instead of only 20% of people being truly monogamous, 80% of society will be monogamous because there simply won’t be women available to pass around the room- they will be asking for marriage.
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