Hello everyone, welcome back to my channel. In my video “Why there must be a prescribed dress code,” I explained why the idea that clothing is purely a personal choice is not only wrong but actually dangerous for any healthy society.Most people today say, “It’s my body, my choice—if I want to walk around naked, that’s my right.” But I showed why that thinking collapses the moment you test it in the real world.I started with a simple thought experiment. Imagine a conservative Muslim village where every woman wears the full niqab—you can only see her eyes. One day a woman decides to take hers off. For a short time she becomes the most popular woman in the village because no one is used to seeing a woman’s face in public. Women love attention, so others notice and start removing their niqabs too.
Soon the niqab is gone entirely.Now that faces are normal, the original woman realises she’s no longer getting special attention. So she takes the next step: she removes her hijab, styles her hair beautifully, and walks around with her hair on full display. Again, the men stare, the other women notice, and the cycle repeats—until no one wears a hijab anymore. Then she lowers her neckline just a little, shows some cleavage. Same thing happens. Each time the boundary is pushed, the novelty wears off, attention-seeking women push further, and the standard of modesty keeps dropping. Eventually you reach a society where most women are effectively naked in public.At that point men have seen so much female skin that it no longer impresses them. The female body loses its value in their eyes. Some men even start preferring the same sex because women’s bodies have become commonplace and unexciting.
Meanwhile the women who still want attention turn to cosmetic surgery—breast implants, Botox, whatever it takes—to stand out in a world where nothing is hidden. It becomes a toxic race to the bottom.This isn’t just theory. This is exactly the condition we see across most of the West today.That’s why I argue we have every right—actually, we have a duty—to prescribe a clear, society-wide dress code and to enforce it. Dress codes are not about controlling individuals; they are about protecting the moral and sexual integrity of the entire community. Without a shared standard, modesty erodes step by step until the very thing that once made a woman special becomes worthless.
Research backs this up. A well-known field study found that when a woman wore suggestive clothing, men approached her after eye contact in less than five minutes—compared to nearly twenty minutes when she was dressed conservatively. Men also rated their chances of a date or sex much higher when she was more revealing. In other words, revealing dress sends a signal that is read as sexual availability, whether the woman intends it or not. We also know from multiple studies on exposure to sexual content that repeated exposure leads to desensitisation: what once shocked or excited people becomes ordinary and loses its impact.
That is precisely the mechanism I described in the village example.So, to everyone who says “dress is a personal choice with no societal consequences,” I say: look at the West. Look at the experiment I laid out. The evidence is right in front of us. Dress codes exist in almost every civilisation—Abrahamic or otherwise—for a very good reason. They create a healthy boundary that protects both men and women from the downward spiral of endless attention-seeking and sexualisation.Thank you for watching, and I hope this summary makes the core message even clearer. If you haven’t seen the full video yet, the link is in the description. Let me know your thoughts below—do you agree that societies need enforced dress standards? Peace.
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