REASON #3
IT PROTECTS WOMEN
Believe it or not, men who desire to have sex with multiple women CAN do so rather easily without ever having to marry any of them. Marriage is the guarantee that men do not take women without commitment. Most fathers, if they must be honest, would rather have their daughters get married than have them sleep around. A father almost always wants to know that the guy who expresses interest in his daughter is SERIOUS. However, what’s to say a guy can’t be serious about more than one woman? Of course he can. He does so out of a sense of protectiveness of those women he is with. If anything polygyny shows strength of character in a society where men don’t need to get married in order to have sex. They can have sex and just move it along.
Charismatic Men
Currently what happens in some parts of the world is that men who are highly charismatic, attractive, and capable sleep with upwards of thirty women, most of whom then go on to sleep with several other men. It may even be that some of these women actually thought the men who passed through were actually going to stick around, but then they didn’t. What happens in the end? You have women who CAN’T get married because they are too damaged to actually sustain a long-term relationship. What about the men? What happens to the promiscuous men? A lot of the time they go on to marry virgins! They know how to play the game so well, when it comes time to settle down they choose a woman who ISN’T like the many women they passed through. Look at people like Dan Bilzerian (b.1980) who became a famous influencer by showcasing his sinful lifestyle to the world. He allegedly slept with thousands of women, averaging three a day, and now promotes monogamy! He will ultimately go on to settle down with one woman who ISN’T like the thousands of other women he slept with. However, what we seldom ask about is those other women. What happens to them?
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If society practiced polygyny Dan Bilzerian and other men like him would have a few wives whom they will be consistent with and not create thousands of casualties along the way. More women would be chaste and of marriage material because they haven’t been passed around the room. On the upper end of the sexual marketplace, the players play hard, and they cause a lot of destruction. Society then expects the men on the lower end to clean up. Do you know how a man feels when he walks into a woman he’s done all kinds of nasty things with, after she’s married to some beta chump? He feels pity. That’s right. Not pity for her, but pity for her husband. He wonders why anyone would marry that bimbo, but then, of course, the husband doesn’t know her past.
People like Rollo Tomassi (b.1967), the Red Pill guru, who also argues in favor of monogamy and who isn’t a rich playboy himself testifies to sleeping with over forty women. He then went on to get married to one woman with whom he has been faithful to for nearly thirty years. Why do I mention these men? It’s because we cannot realistically condone their path to monogamy. In principle hundreds of women are sacrificed at the altar of one when in order to practice monogamy you practically first run through other men’s potential future wives.
Immorality
The problem with this type of logic is that it is essentially immoral and it violates the sanctity of marriage and more importantly of WOMEN! While each of these men who sleep with hundreds and thousands of women will settle down with a wife and live happily ever after, we cannot often say the same of all of the women they slept with prior to becoming serious. In fact, it was Rollo Tomassi himself who coined the term, “alpha widow” to describe a woman who just can’t get over that one guy she will eternally feel like she belongs to. He attributes relationship failures to this phenomenon. When men know that, why would they then casually sleep around? Because they can.
Unicorns
In a world where polygyny is widely expected and accepted, men won’t be able to sleep around. They will be limited in their options because they will have to marry the women they want. In the case of enforced monogamy, men aren’t limited to one woman; they’re only limited to one wife. The only way to enforce monogamy is to allow sex outside of marriage because it isn’t reasonable to expect celibacy on the part of most people. Monogamy sets the expectations so high that men are extremely hesitant to marry. Every man wants that unicorn that he will hopefully be able to remain sexually exclusive and loyal to. In the interim of finding her he’ll simply sleep around a bit. In his mind, a bit of causal sex would hurt, and with regards to men it is proven to not be psychologically, emotionally or even physically that detrimental. However, when it comes to women the opposite is true: casual sex literally destroys her ability to maintain any long-term relationship in the future.
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Prostitutes
A married man in a society that expects and accepts polygyny won’t have the great need to visit prostitutes. He’d know that if he wants another wife, he can have one. He also doesn’t have to be that hesitant to marry because he doesn’t need to find a unicorn. He doesn’t need that one woman who will fulfill his every need. The pressure is also reduced on women. They don’t have to be perfect to be chosen. They just have to be chaste, and chastity is frankly that that hard for a woman to achieve; not when she knows her entire future is tied to it. In our current situation, the majority of men who visit prostitutes are married men. They do this for two reasons: to have sex secretly, and to have sex without having a relationship. Neither of the two are good ways to have sex for women, for men or for society.
To conclude, polygyny is a protection for women. Men can and will have sex with multiple women, whether they marry them or not. When society accepts polygyny we create an environment where men of means can pursue polygyny if they want more women. We also create a scarcity of women that are freely available to play around with the men who aren’t going to marry and who only want to pump and dump. We can build a society through acceptance of polygyny that is chaste and that prioritizes the protection of women and families. Polygyny isn’t about men sleeping around; it’s about every woman having a husband.
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