Reason # 10
Polygyny Protects Monogamy
I alluded to polygyny being the guardian of real monogamy in society. This might sound contradictory because many of us think like computers, in 1’s and 0’s. In reality polygyny isn’t the opposite of monogamy. In the past, both polygyny and monogamy was simply called marriage. Polygyny isn’t the natural enemy of monogamy, it is in fact to marriage what America was to Western Europe- its guardian. Enforced monogamy is the antithesis of itself. We witnessed the destruction of marriage in societies that have tried to enforce monogamy. There are two reasons for this: it creates a false sense of security for women in monogamy, and it inhibits men from pursuing other women thereby stifling growth in society.
Weak Men
We end up with a class of men who can’t or won’t get married, and a society that practices sexual communism- where everyone fucks everyone. In contrast to this, when a society has some polygyny, any man who hopes to find a wife would have to compete, not only against single men, but married men too. Any woman who reduces her value through promiscuity won’t likely find a husband at all because a man who can have multiple wives wouldn’t want a promiscuous wife.
On the flip side, women wouldn’t be able to say “they can’t find suitable husbands” because all the men in the entire world are practically available for marriage. So how does this protect monogamy? Well, because everyone who wants to get married will be, and since there won’t be a lot of single women (the women men typically pass around the room), monogamous marriages would be protected.
At any rate, in any society where polygyny was and is accepted, most people are monogamous. Not everyone wants to practice polygyny. It also encourages men, who would otherwise have the proclivity to sleep with hundreds of women (and some disbelievers do these days), to rather commit to a limited number of women and remain consistent with them exclusively. In other words, more women will get married as virgins. Currently, most women are the casualties of men who sleep with hundreds of women, and then go on to marry the guy who is a virgin (I’m exaggerating, but you get the point- I hope).
Possibility and Desire
A woman who is married in monogamy and knows her husband has no chance of having another woman DOES NOT RESPECT HIM. What do I mean by that? Well, just think about it for a minute. If you’re a woman reading this and you tell yourself, “Well, no one would be interested in him…” Isn’t that an indication of what you think of him? If you’re a man reading this ask yourself what would be the long-term implications for a wife who thinks that you’re not attractive enough to attract another woman. I know the answer to that question. She will RESENT YOU. She’ll also start looking around because she wants a man she’s attracted to. Guess which man that would be?
The man other women are attracted to. The man she thinks can have any number of women is the man she’ll want. Unfortunately, this is the price a man pays for submitting to his wife’s desires. She won’t respect him for it. In fact, she won’t appreciate him more. She won’t count her blessings. None of that. She will view him with contempt because deep down she KNOWS THAT A MAN NEVER DESIRES ONLY ONE WOMAN! What you are now, in her eyes, is a man who can’t ever get what he wants. You’re a pussy, and your monogamous marriage is totally screwed as a result.
You’ve missed the point when you follow these highly successful and happily married monogamous men who promote morals and virtue thinking their advice and work for you. What you’re overlooking is the fact that you are not like them. You aren’t highly successful. You’re not a public speaker. There aren’t thousands of women wishing they could have a husband like you. His highly successful monogamous marriage is premised on the fact that thousands if not millions of woman would take the place of his wife in a heartbeat. No woman will take the place of your wife. In fact, not even your wife thinks so! How pathetic is that?
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Charlatans
You can’t listen to these public speakers because they are charlatans. They say what women like to hear because they’re after fame and wealth. When sincere, they say what they do works for them because they are not cognizant of their unique situation and they imagine that it will work for you- the average Joe who has fokkel (jack shit). The problem you’re having is the institutionalization of monogamy and the fact that you do not see yourself as being capable of having more women. You have resigned yourself to having one wife, and your wife knows it.
You can change all that by opening yourself up to the idea of having another woman in your life. Going out into the world like a man who can, instead of a man who can’t. Looking at how you can accomplish and achieve more in your life rather than resigning yourself to accepting the way your life is now. Sure, you may not want another wife. That’s fine. It’s not about having another wife, it’s just about possibility. It’s about your wife knowing that you’re a man options; that there are women who would marry you tomorrow if they could. How would your wife know that if you’ve given up on yourself? How would other women desire you if you’re undesirable? If your own wife thinks you’re undesirable? Polygyny on the table solves this problem instantly. You’ll be a better husband knowing you can marry another wife, and your wife will be a better wife and actually respect more for being man other women want.
Danger and Excitement
I’ve alluded to the fact that women grave danger and excitement earlier. People are really funny creatures. On the one side, we do everything to be safe. We also work hard to have comfortable lives and to insulate ourselves. Once we have all that, we crave excitement and danger. Safe, predictable, and steady (basically marriage) is boring. A woman lives for emotional highs and therefore also emotional lows. Yes, it’s not good for her, but it’s how they’re built. Emotional highs and lows for women make them feel alive. A safe, steady, and predictable life makes them feel as if they’re not alive. Naturally, husbands do their best to keep their families safe. In fact, they keep their wives so safe at times, that the wife ends up cheating with the mechanic or gardener who is broke person and who is always dirty. Why do you think that happens? Because you’re boring. Why are you boring? Because you gave in to her. You agreed to her terms. You’ve given her everything she wants, and there’s no point to you anymore.
If you want a good marriage, you have to keep her slightly off balance and always wanting something that is within your reach but that you just refuse to give. Polygyny solves this essential broken temperament that all women suffer from because it puts you slightly out of reach. Monogamy is always just a pipe dream. If you’re in monogamy right now, it can end tomorrow. Woman need to know that, and you need to make sure your wife knows that because that’s what’ll keep her happy (yes, it’s ironic). The worse thing that can happen to a woman is not to have the occasional emotional roller coaster, never to feel jealous, and never to miss her husband because women live for feelings.
To conclude this section, the best monogamous marriages have the potential to be polygynous because the man is highly sort after and desired by other women. That in turn validates his own wife’s perception of him. She now believes that she made the best choice and that she can’t do better. It’s important for a woman to think that. It also helps men stay on top of their game because they too know that having more women is a possibility. They may never get there, or never choose that path, but hope is better than feeling stuck. I knew a woman who was trying to push her husband to be more ambitious and finally she told him, “Kry vir jou ‘n noge vrou.” (Get yourself another wife.) Deep down, a woman understands that ambition in men is coupled with prospects of having multiple women. Any woman who wants a highly successful man should also understand that success comes with abundance.
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