Become the best version of yourself
When I was growing up I veered towards asceticism and had this idea that seeking pleasure was spiritually damning. I got that idea, not only from Islamic asceticism but also from my reading of the Far-Eastern Traditions. My journey into Martial Arts led me down the rabbit role of spiritualism and for many years I […]
Written by coachdebruyns In a diverse world where you might be in conversation with people from all around the globe, it’s hard not to misunderstand what the other person means. That is because, historically, we typically only spoke to people around us. We shared a common language and common experience. In today’s world we need to have a […]
Written by coachdebruyns A lot of the posts out there are focused on how you can get a woman. There’s so much focus on game, which is basically just a bunch of cheap tactics to bed women, and almost zero focus on what to do when you actually have a partner / wife that you’d like to remain […]
Written by coachdebruyns The world we live in is not like the world our parents lived in. We have the internet, social media, YouTube and so many other things we can spend a lot of our time on. Some people report spending in excess of six hours a day on their phones. Those aren’t six hours of being […]
Written by coachdebruyns A person once told me, “Ambition is what kills you. You are never contented with what you have…” I thought about that for a while. It was true that I was always trying to improve my life, and I was never ‘satisfied’ with what I have. It was never good enough. I always wanted the […]
Written by coachdebruyns I’ve met with scores of people over the years, either running their own businesses or starting up. I had that rare privilege because I owned the local Internet cafe in my little village called Strandfontein. ‘Strand’ means beach in Afrikaans and many places ended with ‘fontein’ at the end to represent ‘village/ spring.’ I also […]
Written by coachdebruyns I’ve seen a few good friends of mine battle with losing weight. I’ve coached some of them into losing weight through exercise and diet only to find that several months after reaching their weight goals they’ve returned back to their old habits. One of the biggest problems with being overweight is not being able to […]
Written by coachdebruyns I watched a video from the movie ‘My Fair Lady’ made in 1964. Naturally that was before the world grew wiser and ‘toxic masculinity’ became a go to phrase. I added the video in this blog. “Why can’t a woman be more like man?” An interesting question indeed. In fact, it’s probably at the heart […]
Written by coachdebruyns When beliefs are mentioned religion often comes to mind. What do you believe? Think about that for a minute… Some people might reply, “Well, I believe in God.” Others might respond, “I’m not sure what I believe.” I’ve heard people say, “I believe in freedom.” There’s really no right way to believe. I know that […]
Written by coachdebruyns Money is a strange thing. People do a lot for money. Some people will do anything for money. In some circles they believe that everyone has a price. The most dangerous person, according to those guys, is someone who doesn’t. Then there’s those righteous folks who go around saying, “money is the root to all […]
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