The art of naming, I am led to believe, is primarily a human trait. The revelation I read and try to follow, the Qur’an, talks about how God taught Adam the names of all things. (2:118) Naming is a very big deal because it is the foundation of a vocabulary and as a result, the …
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Should I get a university degree?
If you want to be a doctor, a lawyer or an engineer you will need a solid qualification just to be allowed into the industry- and for good reason.
I can’t get a man to commit…
Every so often a woman shows up and says, “I just can’t find a man who will commit…” There are certain things about a lot of men that a lot of times go unnoticed in a world that is increasingly unwilling to acknowledge anything masculine. Hopefully, you want a man to commit out of his …
Can you help me find a woman?
Every so often I get someone asking me this question: How do you find a woman? Firstly, I must say that this is a bit vague so I’ll rephrase the question into two questions and answer both. Hopefully you guys will find it helpful. How do you find a woman to sleep with? How do …
How do I put on some muscle mass?
This is a great question and while I am not a professional athlete I have myself went up from 66kg to 75kg through diet and weight training over the span of a year. I’ve lost belly fat and gained muscle and if I could do that at 36 years of age while having a fulltime …
I don’t know what he wants…
There was a time people made certain basic assumptions about men and what they want in an intimate relationship. In fact, many people still have these basic assumptions: sex, food, comfort, and to be left alone. That’s a very short list and for a lot of men, keeping things as uncomplicated as possible is very …
Pleasure Seeking
When I was growing up I veered towards asceticism and had this idea that seeking pleasure was spiritually damning. I got that idea, not only from Islamic asceticism but also from my reading of the Far-Eastern Traditions. My journey into Martial Arts led me down the rabbit role of spiritualism and for many years I …
Understanding Cultural Nuance
In a diverse world where you might be in conversation with people from all around the globe, it’s hard not to misunderstand what the other person means. That is because, historically, we typically only spoke to people around us. We shared a common language and common experience. In today’s world we need to have a …
Relationship Advice for Guys
A lot of the posts out there are focused on how you can get a woman. There’s so much focus on game, which is basically just a bunch of cheap tactics to bed women, and almost zero focus on what to do when you actually have a partner / wife that you’d like to remain …
Time Management
The world we live in is not like the world our parents lived in. We have the internet, social media, YouTube and so many other things we can spend a lot of our time on. Some people report spending in excess of six hours a day on their phones. Those aren’t six hours of being …