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There was a time that men understood the importance of supporting other men in the pursuit of order, family and safety. A nuclear family could not survive on its own in the wide expanses of the earth where raids were not far and few between. Fast forward and we had large empires as a result […]
Written by coachdebruyns I recently watched the movie, “All I See is You” where this blind woman is the wife of an insurance broker residing in Thailand. I thought this movie would make excellent Red Pill content because it lines up with all the teachings of the Red Pill Movement that has found currency over the past few […]
Written by coachdebruyns There’s a phenomenon that I’ve observed, especially amongst Arabs, who when they want to cross the threshold of what is normally appropriate in Arab and Islamic culture, they say, “He is like a brother to me” or “she is like a sister to me.” A friend of mine married an Arab girl who literally used […]
Written by coachdebruyns I have had this debate over and over again where women have told me that they are perfectly fine with having male friends and their husbands don’t mind. Uhum, Will Smith didn’t mind and looked what happened to him? The fact is that male intimacy doesn’t work the same way as female intimacy, which is […]
Written by coachdebruyns Can Muslims pursue wealth just for fun?
Written by coachdebruyns I’ve been watching content of Andrew Tate for about a year now. I came across him just before he became mega famous as being just another guy in the Manosphere. Although he might not have classified himself as that. Truth be told, a lot of what he was saying is part of a pretty standard […]
Written by coachdebruyns COACH DE BRUYN’S PHILOSOPHY IN A NUTSHELL BOOKS PUBLISHED BY AUTHOR Live Your Life as a Man: Reclaim Your Masculinity This book is meant to help men live their lives authentically. There is a crisis of masculinity in the world and very few people out there have a balanced solution to the problem. This book […]
Written by coachdebruyns Chapter 1 Who am I Am I a loser? Hi I’m Jack Higgins. I’m going to tell you my story of how I met the girl of my dreams and… FROZE. Well, yeah, at first I froze, then I sulked. After sulking, I gained some extra weight. But before we get into all that, let […]
Written by coachdebruyns هل تريدين التدريب البدني في رمضان؟ انضموا إليّ وأنا أعطي لكم كيف أتدرب في رمضان The first thing you must remember is that Ramadan is the month where we dedicate more of our time to worshipping Allah and less of our time on things we would normally do. Therefore, even if you want to keep […]
Written by coachdebruyns Have you ever heard the song, “Love me for Me” by Jamali? I grew up with songs of female artists singing about how men should just accept them for who they are. Now, obviously, in general people should all be accepted for who they are because there is realistically nothing else you could possibly do. […]
Written by coachdebruyns When men and women start out in polygyny they often struggle. Women struggle with feeling jealous and have trouble reigning it in. Men struggle with having to divide their time between two or more families.
Written by coachdebruyns As a rule, always put the shoe on the other foot when you want to do something you are not sure is right. Would you like that other men flirt with your wife? So why would it be ok for you to do that?
Written by coachdebruyns Be strong, be brave, be useful, be you. You are a man and as a man you must hold to what your expectations are. Incidentally, men do not have nearly as many expectations as women do. That’s why your expectations are what matters, not hers.
Written by coachdebruyns Over millions of years of evolution and for the first time in modern history we’ve experienced an unprecedented change in the variables we need to negotiate in order to have a viable relationship. Couples can now negotiate whether or not they’re going to have children. Who is going to be the primary breadwinner and primary […]
Written by coachdebruyns I remember the days when I would see a really beautiful woman, let’s a say a 10 out of 10, go up to her and try to start a conversation with her. I would say, “Hi, how are you?” She’d reply, “fine.” I’d say, what’s your name, she’d say, “Anna.” I’d be like, “what are […]
Written by coachdebruyns A person once told me, “Ambition is what kills you. You are never contented with what you have…” I thought about that for a while. It was true that I was always trying to improve my life, and I was never ‘satisfied’ with what I have. It was never good enough. I always wanted the […]
Written by coachdebruyns There’s this idea that everyone has a calling. When you do what you’re really supposed to do, somehow you’ll feel fulfilled in life. In fact, everything will just fall into place for you. I’ve heard that story over and over, and truthfully, I don’t buy it. I don’t buy it because as much as it […]
Written by coachdebruyns Have you ever told yourself that things would be so much better if only you didn’t have to catch the bus at 6am in the morning? Wouldn’t life be so much better if only you weren’t single? If only you had more money, you would be able to do so much more. If…. Only…. If […]
Written by coachdebruyns Is marriage a one size fits all? Must it be that a man provides for a woman who is the homemaker? Or can marriage assume various formats? Must it be monogamous, or can it also be polygynous or polyamorous? At which point is it no longer considered marriage? In this essay I will deconstruct the […]
Written by coachdebruyns A real Christian and Muslim can only marry women from patriarchy as wives becuase it is ordinarily a requirement for a virgin woman to be given in marriage by her male guardian who is typically her father or grandfather. The idea that a woman is “given away” shows that marriage is a patriarchal institution. On […]
Written by coachdebruyns This is a question as a relationship coach I get often. As a polygynous man, I personally experienced women cheating mainly because those women didn’t understand polygyny. They felt, that since I had multiple wives, they can have multiple husbands but of course hid the fact that they were pursuing their options. In an ideal […]
Written by coachdebruyns In the Name of Allah the Most Gracious Most Merciful The Praise belongs to Allah, Lord of the Worlds. It is He who created us in truth, so that we might identify the truth through His guidance sent with His Prophets and Messengers, the last of which was Muhammad the son of Abdullah (God’s peace […]
Written by coachdebruyns There are predefined gender roles within Islam such that men are exclusively identified as men and not to be confused with women, and women are exclusively identified as women and not be confused with men. In the modern world there has been a wealth of confusion regarding gender roles, attitudes and behaviors to the extent […]
Written by coachdebruyns A wife of mine once went to a place I didn’t approve of her going. It wasn’t a bad place, but I had specifically asked her that day not to go there. However, she felt that she was in a predicament because she already promised the owner of the place that she’d come. Later in […]
Written by coachdebruyns God, in the Qur’an, requires complete submission such that the believer is able to give up his life, his income, his amibtions and his desires without hesitation seeking God’s Mercy and Pleasure. Abraham portrayed this best in his actions and in his words when we said, “Indeed my prayers, and my sacrifices, and my life […]
Written by Nawaahl Wishing all my Muslim readers a Ramadan Mubarak. May Allah grant you all an elevated position in nearness to Him and accept from all of you your acts of worship during and after this holy month. Fasting is an exercise of worship that resets the body, mind and spirit to a base level so that […]
Written by coachdebruyns There are instances in which a previously married woman would be more ideal to marry in a monogamous marriage. It is especially true in a culture where promiscuity is rampant. At the very least, a woman who was married for a long time likely wasn’t sleeping around and has already shown that her interest is […]
Written by coachdebruyns Taking the Shahada (Testifying that there is no god but Allah and Muhammad (s) is His Messenger) begets obligations and prohibitions to complete your statement through the beautification of your actions and the straightening out of your life. The first obligation that falls upon a person who claims belief is the 5 daily prayers and […]
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